Interfaith Weddings – Wedding bells

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I’m preparing wedding sermons for a Muslim woman marrying
a Jewish man. Sermon will be both in Judaic and Islamic traditions. It’s such a
joy to officiate the interfaith weddings, it’s good to see two entirely
different individuals learn to respect the otherness of others and accept each
other. Today, in the United States, nearly 42% of weddings are across the faith
I am blessed to have performed Jewish-Christian, Hindu-Christian,
Jain-Muslim, Atheist-Muslim weddings and it’s a pleasure to see them all do

In the long run society would produce tolerant people who would respect
the other person’s practices.

My friend Ilan Leibowitz asked me what their future offspring or souls
will bring to humanity.
There are many good things, to list a few;

1. One of the outcomes would be learning to respecting other
2. Rightfully religion becomes a personal rather than communal or
household belief
3. Individual responsibility for one’s actions rather than
blaming the religion.
4. Minding your own faith, each faith is
5. A future world with lesser religious conflicts.
5. Write in
your own thoughts

Doesn’t God love couples who live
in harmony?

# 1 – Islam is not a religion of imposition, nor does it advocate
forcing others to behave.

# 2 – Quran is a book of guidance to create peaceful societies where
each person minds his own faith. No one has a right to punish for one’s belief
unless someone is adversely affecting his/her space, food and loved ones. God
waits till the Day of Judgment to decide about one’s faith.

# 3 – Interfaith marriages do not rob any one of anything.

# 4 – Quran treats all humanity as equal -it even inculcates those
values in its rituals. It particularly freed women from the oppression of men
and usually everything Quran addresses is binary – i.e. if it addresses men to
lower the gaze, it advises women to cover their bosom. If it talks about day, it
is followed by night; if it is good behavior then the talk is about bad

It has allowed Muslim men to marry non-Muslim women without even
converting. But God has not banned the vice versa, giving room for discretion.
However, because a majority of women around the world are dependent on men for
livelihood, men have always played it out to keep the children in their religion
fold for security reason rather than spiritual reason.

# 5 – No choice, unlike Muslim Majority nations, Jewish Majority Nation
or even Hindu Majority Nation where interfaith marriage is prevented, and the
couples are even killed, thank God for the United States, if two people want to
marry, we have no choice but not to accept it. Islam emphatically teaches no
compulsion, but its followers do not follow, America follows it.

# 6- What does God really want? Nothing more than harmony, peace and a
well functioning world, after all it is his creation. A Muslim woman marrying a
non-Muslim will add to that peace and harmony.

# 7 –  A Muslim
friend said, it is not legal for a Muslim woman to marry an Atheist, and here
is my common sense response.

If a Muslim woman wants to marry an Atheist man, and remain a Muslim but lives happily,
and leads marriage – that is her choice and that is what God wills.

God is
always right, there is no doubt about it – his guidance is for our good, he
wants the world to live in harmony. 
There was a time when women were considered a chattel, Quran removed
that non-sense and made man and woman each other’s protectors, guides,
confidants and friends on equal footing. 
The believing men subscribed to the rules of the social order and were
accountable where as non-believers at one time did not care for any rules and
marriages went awry. That is not the case today. Atheists today are as responsible
as theists and a Muslim woman can be as happy with a Muslim, Jew, and Christian
as with an Atheist, Hindu or Pagan, and it is not going against God’s guidance.
Mike Ghouse
(214) 325-1916 –
Interfaith wedding officiant

Mike Ghouse is a public speaker, thinker, writer and a commentator on
Pluralism at work place, politics, religion, society, gender, race, culture,
ethnicity, food and foreign policy. All about him is listed in several links at and his writings are
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other blogs. He is committed to building cohesive societies and offers
pluralistic solutions on issues of the day.

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